Reclaiming Home in my Body, Part 1

Tending to my body does not come naturally to me. Since I was a little kid, I was always on the go, always wanting to learn or create or do the next thing. I was determined to do all the things in this one life of mine and I felt that it required action every waking moment. I just couldn’t bear spend any precious time just to do the same things over and over again.

Why would I waste time on something as fruitless as a shower, let alone hours in a hair salon, or waking early to put on makeup each day? These aren’t judgements - rather a space I felt was completely inaccessible to me...an aspect of ‘femininity’ that didn’t fit me. I would take baths with barely any interaction with my body. Just get clean and move on.

Then I received a beautiful gift - an experience that changed me. Another beautiful human offered to tend to my body in the shower. With a washcloth and some body wash, they slowly and gently touched every part of me. This loving touch unlocked something deep inside me - a reconnection with the body that is mine to enjoy in this lifetime.

I carried this gift forward with me, setting an intention to tend to my own body as lovingly as they had, each day. I also decided to invest in a facial. I had never thought it was okay to spend that much money on myself, for something so ‘frivolous’ as to receive loving touch or care. It was blissful! And now I offer them to myself.

I lose the rhythm of this practice sometimes. I fall into the patterns of neglect, of unawareness, disconnection. And then I notice, reach out for support or gently remind myself of how good it feels to tend to my body with love and care. The sensations on my face, the healing nature of a delicate touch, the warmth of hands on skin, and the love transmitted through a gaze in the mirror.

Reclaim Your Space is about coming home to yourself, becoming fully embodied in this one wild life of yours. Our physical environment is an extension of our body. How we tend to one can and will inform how we tend to the other. I invite you to choose healing and reconnection and reclamation in your home, with your body, in every aspect of your life.

I would love to be your guide! If this work calls to you, email me at tam@tam.world so we can find the best way that I can support you. I am currently inviting beloveds into three different possible paths. Perhaps one of them is perfect for you.