3 Key Questions to Ask Yourself
I've been thinking about how things change over time and reflecting on all the seasons I have been moving through. There have been times of deep connection, times of intense emotion, times of effective action, times of creation and times of reflection. Through all of these times, I have been practicing getting to know myself and I have noticed that through it all there is a center that remains - the 'Me' part.
The Me part is much clearer than ever before and at the same time, much more fluid. As I continue to explore the edges of possibility, I gain access to aspects of Me that I didn't know were even there. And this type of soft, fluid expansion feels very important these days.
At the same time, as I soften my edges, loosen my preconceptions, and engage in possible versions of my life I didn't see before, I can sometimes lose my center. And losing my center has become very painful, almost intolerable to my system.
So I have been thinking about what keeps me connected to that center and I realized that it is often as simple as coming back to these basic questions:
What makes me happy?
What do I want?
What feels good?
These are simple questions but you might notice that you don't often ask them of yourself. I know I didn't for a long time. There are many systems in the world that function to separate us from our joy, our desire, and our pleasure. The more I study these systems, I see a pattern. These are systems of oppression that work on the premise of separating us from ourselves. So it follows that these basic questions may be pathways to liberation, to reconnection with ourselves and to a new freedom of self-expression.
Now you may be wondering what any of this has to do with Reclaim Your Space. Here it is: these questions are at the crux of everything I teach. The work of reclamation in our homes is so important because it allows us to create physical spaces that act as anchors, supporting us in reconnecting with our center.
Our home environment both expresses and informs our internal landscape. For example, if your environment reflects to you that which brings you joy, it can help you to ground back into the truth of what makes you happy. Yet often, our environments, and the beliefs we have about what they should be like, instead reflect stories of shame and falling short. If this is the case, your home is not supporting your connection to your center but rather deepening the split from that vital part of you. As such, your home becomes just another tool of oppression rather than a vehicle of liberation.
Whenever we gather for a Reclaim Your Space event, I hold a shame-free, judgement-free space of support and encouragement for you to powerfully choose and create your environment in a way that is uniquely yours. This Friday's event will be a lovely time to gather and be inspired in community to ask yourself these questions:
What makes me happy?
What do I want?
What feels good?
And then receive support on action steps you can take to keep creating in this direction.
I hope you'll join us!
